Stacey Fearnall, a waitress in Ontario, was fired after shaving her head for charity. As Meowser informed us recently, not having the “right” amount or kind of hair can lead women to suicidal thoughts. But as this article reminds us, even if you voluntarily reject your feminine duty to have luscious, fuck-me hair, others are willing to step in and reinforce that particular beauty mandate for you. What if Stacey Fearnall had lost her hair not for a cancer charity but because she had cancer? Would she still have been fired for this “employer-employee matter”?
When my mother had brain surgery a few years ago, the first thing she said when she saw family members in her hospital room was “Don’t look at my hair!” We were so happy that the surgery went successfully we were practically crying, but her first instinct was alarm and shame at the loss of her hair. Luckily, FJ and I were there to assure her that she looked like a cool feminist rock star, and I had knit her a hat that she was allowed to wear right away — but I’ll never forget that her first instinct, even in a post-anesthesia haze, was to hide her bald head.