I’m of two minds about advice columns. I’m highly suspicious of them because they’re often dripping with bad advice (except Ask the Blondes, of course), but I totally love to read them. I love to hear about people’s problems, boring or bizarre, and I love the nutjob answers that most columnists give to their distressed letter writers (see Tennis, Cary). Dear Prudence, while having an excellent name, is often hit or miss, IMHO; she’s fairly pragmatic, but I’ve seen some columns where she just gets everything wrong.
Which is why I’m pleasantly surprised at Prudie’s advice to this woman who met a fantastic guy who’s — steel yourselves — “overweight.” The woman writes, “I am not completely attracted to him. I am on some levels, but I am not sure it would be enough to transition our friendship into a relationship.” Prudie wins points with me by addressing potential fatphobia in her first sentence: “It’s a good sign that you’re not asking how to get your new friend to lose weight so you can be attracted to him.” Bingo! (In a good way for once.)
Check out the whole column,* if you will, and then weigh in (har har): what do you think? Did Prudence get it right? Should she have said something else? Have you had a similar dating experience — and if so, how did it go?
(*Here is where I want to use a clever word for our readers, like “Shakers” or “Pandagonians,” but I can’t quite figure out what sounds best. Shapers? Shapeliers? Shapelies? Prosies? Kate Harding Worshipers? Weigh in on this, too!)