Comments on: Open Thread: Resolutions

By: SjC

SjC — Tue, 12 Jan 2010 17:00:28 +0000

I too am late, because typically I never set resolutions. However, it has become apparent I’m going to have to do some resolving this year to maintain sanity. With the turn of the new year, many of my dearest friends have gone diet & exercise crazy. While that’s not unexpected, this year (more than previous years) the diet talk is driving me positively apeshit. I’m finally happy with my body and it breaks my heart to hear some of the things they say about their own bodies.

I resolve to not punch them in the teeth when they want my approval and praise for subsisting on 1200 calories for a 275-pound body. I resolve to not scream “I AM NOT THE DIET POLICE” when they say to me “don’t tell, I’m having a cookie” on the first g. d. day of the diet. I resolve not to point out in a snarky tone that some celery, an apple, and water for lunch is likely not enough food to sustain a 2-hour workout. I resolve to find an effective, non-threatening approach to stating that food and its consumption is not a moral issue. And the hardest resolution of all for me: not to fall back into thinking that because I’m fat and my friends are dieting that I should be on a diet too.

Help.

By: Tishtacular

Tishtacular — Mon, 11 Jan 2010 21:36:36 +0000

Hi. I know I’m late to the party, but I really wanted to tell someone my resolution.

I’m giving too much to my job when it doesn’t give me as much back. I’m going to stop working through my lunches, and I’m going to take my eyes off of my work computer screen every working day, just for a few minutes. I’m losing myself in a job that isn’ t worth it. The job is fine, but there’s more to my life than working, and I need to act on it. :)

By: Maureen

Maureen — Thu, 07 Jan 2010 23:06:48 +0000

My resolution for 2010 is to take the leap of figuring out what I really want to do and tailor the last part of my master’s to whatever that is. I need to stop being so afraid of changing my professional life even though I know I will be happier when I do!

By: The_Rise

The_Rise — Thu, 07 Jan 2010 08:22:54 +0000

Learn to play the sax and brush up on me horticulture skills all the while enjoying feminist blogging all over the Internets!

By: Other Becky

Other Becky — Thu, 07 Jan 2010 03:10:38 +0000

WestEndGirl: Not everybody has to do (or has to want to do) something profound and earth-shaking. If what you want is a quiet, cozy life… I don’t really see anything wrong with that. If you’re defaulting to quiet and cozy but are unhappy with it, that’s a different matter. In which case, my first advice would be to try six new activities this year — that gives you an average of two months per activity, so you can see whether you really like it. Try swing dancing or salsa dancing or contra dancing. Learn to bake or knit or paint or scuba dive. Volunteer at a women’s shelter or family shelter or animal shelter. Join a book club or a mountaineering club. Even if a given activity doesn’t turn you on, it could give you ideas for things that might.

By: WestEndGirl

WestEndGirl — Thu, 07 Jan 2010 00:29:26 +0000

Ok, my resolution for 2010 is to find a guiding purpose or passion in life. Because I have been drifting and reacting to events since as long as I can remember. I don’t ever remember taking an active, proactive, passionate, decision in my career or relationships. Ever!

Have tried therapy; hypnotherapy; discussions with friends, mentors and strangers; just doing things I like, and pretty much everything to discover what I would like to do/have/create in my life for myself and others. And you know what? Bupkiss except for lots of random half-arsed ideas along the lines of ‘oh, wouldn’t it be nice to speak Italian/Japanese whatever’ Oh, and when I went to hypnotherapy, when asked when under what I would like to do in my life, I described curling up on a couch and falling asleep. My subconcious isn’t even helping me out here!

So obviously lovely Shapelings, any hints and tips, gratefully received! I have no job, no personal attachments (save family and friends who would love to see me flourish), no money worries and nothing holding me back, apart from me….so please feel free to suggest my resolutions, and the more outlandish the better frankly!!!

By: Jessikanesis

Jessikanesis — Wed, 06 Jan 2010 23:33:37 +0000

I have resolved to start taking kung fu again (after a year’s hiatus because a major out-of-state move). I feel like I’m more fit when I do this, and it’s one of the few organized exercises I’ve ever done without the intent of losing weight. In fact, right before I left kung fu back in 2008, I felt like I was in the best shape of my life based on all of the new things I could do that I couldn’t before (pushups, high kicks, certain stretches, etc), but I hadn’t lost a pound.

Anyway, I already started again on Jan 2. Maybe later this year I’ll upload pics or vids of my short, fat self earning yet another belt test.

By: renniejoy

renniejoy — Wed, 06 Jan 2010 21:49:44 +0000

Hit enter too soon – Then I made an appointment to try out the local fitness center (one-on-one personal training) and said up-front that weight loss is NOT one of my goals, which are strength and stamina. The lady I talked to said that she really liked those goals! :)

Thank you for helping me discover this confidence in myself! (I’ve been speaking out about annoying things a lot more, too)

By: renniejoy

renniejoy — Wed, 06 Jan 2010 21:44:18 +0000

I discovered you lovely ladies about a month ago, and have really taken your message to heart. Thank you so much!
I talked to my doctor today about ongoing pain in my foot, and made it quite clear to both her and the nurse that I am working on being happy and healthy even if I stay fat. They both took the news in stride and I was given a recommendation for a podiatrist because the X-ray machine in her office was not working.

By: ananimaltoo

ananimaltoo — Wed, 06 Jan 2010 20:06:46 +0000

Woo! Minerva! You rule! I haven’t resolved anything, but if I did, it might be that. Although that would probably mean swearing at least once every five minutes, all day, every day.