So when you guys get Kate’s book (you preordered it, right?), you will see in it a brief anecdote about a friend who married someone who she originally didn’t think was “her type” physically, because the longer she knew him the more her type turned out to be “someone just like him.” And that friend will be me. Up until I met Dan, pretty much every male I was attracted to was tall, thin, and long-haired. (And an asshole.) Actually, by the time I met him I’d broadened (ha) my tastes a bit to include slightly thicker guys, but I definitely didn’t imagine I could be interested in a fat guy. And then, all of a sudden, I was.
Dan’s tallish and long-haired, but it wasn’t a case of “two outta three ain’t bad” (two outta four if you count “asshole”) — it was more that once we started dating, I realized that in fact fat men can be totally sexy. I didn’t make an exception for him — rather, he made me realize I’d been wrong the whole time. This is one of the many reasons I laugh every time a troll tells us that nobody will ever be attracted to a fat woman. I always think dude, did you even try? (Not that I want them to try, we’re well rid of them — but the point is, it’s true that nobody will ever be attracted to a fat woman when they’re spending all their time frothing about how nobody will ever be attracted to a fat woman, but people who can look beyond expectations and preconceptions often find there’s a whole world out there.)
Anyway, I say that all as a prelude to saying that Jorge Garcia of LOST has a blog (thanks Miss Conduct for pointing it out!), and now I totally have a crush on him. He’s so cute and so funny! I occasionally hear from readers who say “I’m trying to get down with FA, but I find that I can’t be attracted to fat folks without getting judgy, am I a hypocrite?” Of course you can’t force attraction, but you can broaden your mind and see what swims in. So if this sounds like you, and you are attracted to menfolk, here’s your assignment: go read Jorge’s blog. I’m thinking you will fall in love a little. (If it doesn’t sound like you, read it anyway; there are maybe a lot of poop jokes for some people’s tastes, but it’s reliably had me laughing out loud.)