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		<title>By: Caitlin</title>
		<link>http://kateharding.net/2009/01/06/reverse-resolutions/#comment-81173</link>
		<dc:creator>Caitlin</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Wed, 21 Jan 2009 19:03:21 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Oh! I didn&#039;t see this before. I want to play.

In 2008 I:

*Started believing in FA &quot;for real&quot;, stopped dieting, threw out my scales, and converted my sister, thus ending a ~10-year stretch of disordered eating and hating my body (thanks to SP)
*Became a feminist (also thanks to SP)
*Started to realise that academia is not the be-all and end-all of who I am as a person
*Spent a ridiculously tough 3 months as a 24-hour stage manager and camp counsellor and discovered I&#039;m capable of a lot more than I had thought
*Went to New York! Saw Broadway shows! Fell in love with [tos]
*Started seriously thinking about finding a career that&#039;s right for &lt;i&gt;me&lt;/i&gt; rather than one that&#039;s on my arbitrary list of Societally Approved Career Choices
*Learned to knit!
*Started planning my round-the-world trip in &#039;10
*Found not one but two women who like me exactly as I am. They happen to be in a LTR with each other. So also, got confirmation that I am a little bit poly. Heh.
*Started thinking seriously about the ADD and whether I want to get it diagnosed and just deal with whatever stigma exists (whether for real or in my head), because, as bellacoker put it, trying harder just isn&#039;t cutting it anymore.
*Finally got some counselling for the trauma my family have/are putting me through. Realised I coped with it so much better than I had any reason to. Got proud of me for surviving.
 
Essentially, this was the year I became a person, and started embracing &amp; liking me for exactly who I am instead of constantly criticising myself for who I&#039;m not. I loved it. More of the same please.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Oh! I didn&#8217;t see this before. I want to play.</p>
<p>In 2008 I:</p>
<p>*Started believing in FA &#8220;for real&#8221;, stopped dieting, threw out my scales, and converted my sister, thus ending a ~10-year stretch of disordered eating and hating my body (thanks to SP)<br />
*Became a feminist (also thanks to SP)<br />
*Started to realise that academia is not the be-all and end-all of who I am as a person<br />
*Spent a ridiculously tough 3 months as a 24-hour stage manager and camp counsellor and discovered I&#8217;m capable of a lot more than I had thought<br />
*Went to New York! Saw Broadway shows! Fell in love with [tos]<br />
*Started seriously thinking about finding a career that&#8217;s right for <i>me</i> rather than one that&#8217;s on my arbitrary list of Societally Approved Career Choices<br />
*Learned to knit!<br />
*Started planning my round-the-world trip in &#8216;10<br />
*Found not one but two women who like me exactly as I am. They happen to be in a LTR with each other. So also, got confirmation that I am a little bit poly. Heh.<br />
*Started thinking seriously about the ADD and whether I want to get it diagnosed and just deal with whatever stigma exists (whether for real or in my head), because, as bellacoker put it, trying harder just isn&#8217;t cutting it anymore.<br />
*Finally got some counselling for the trauma my family have/are putting me through. Realised I coped with it so much better than I had any reason to. Got proud of me for surviving.</p>
<p>Essentially, this was the year I became a person, and started embracing &amp; liking me for exactly who I am instead of constantly criticising myself for who I&#8217;m not. I loved it. More of the same please.</p>
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		<title>By: Sara A</title>
		<link>http://kateharding.net/2009/01/06/reverse-resolutions/#comment-79582</link>
		<dc:creator>Sara A</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 08 Jan 2009 20:50:46 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>I moved in with my lovely boyfriend.

My RA introduced me to FA via Manolo for the Big Girl

I learned to embroider: I find it soothing, except when I get obsessive about perfect stitches.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I moved in with my lovely boyfriend.</p>
<p>My RA introduced me to FA via Manolo for the Big Girl</p>
<p>I learned to embroider: I find it soothing, except when I get obsessive about perfect stitches.</p>
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		<title>By: Lu</title>
		<link>http://kateharding.net/2009/01/06/reverse-resolutions/#comment-79456</link>
		<dc:creator>Lu</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 08 Jan 2009 16:35:22 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Oh, Amazing Kim, I didn&#039;t know you were in Australia. Sorry for dangling only American and rarefied choices before you. I wonder if cookbooks (like The Uncheese Cookbook) might be the best option for you. Do you have access to slightly exotic ingredients like nutritional yeast? That tends to figure into &quot;uncheese&quot; recipes.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Oh, Amazing Kim, I didn&#8217;t know you were in Australia. Sorry for dangling only American and rarefied choices before you. I wonder if cookbooks (like The Uncheese Cookbook) might be the best option for you. Do you have access to slightly exotic ingredients like nutritional yeast? That tends to figure into &#8220;uncheese&#8221; recipes.</p>
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		<title>By: iheartchocolat</title>
		<link>http://kateharding.net/2009/01/06/reverse-resolutions/#comment-79446</link>
		<dc:creator>iheartchocolat</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 08 Jan 2009 16:03:48 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>In 2007 I lost my career, but too busy just surviving to think about it.  So in 2008, I had to deal with the mental, emotional aftermath.  But, it was great for psychological reasons, because I learned so much about myself and my relationships with other people.  Kind of a quarterlife growing up process.  And, as of yesterday, I applied to go back to my alma mater to get a 2nd degree in landscape architecture.  I don&#039;t know if I can make it happen, but I thrive on taking a chance.  I&#039;m hopeful!</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>In 2007 I lost my career, but too busy just surviving to think about it.  So in 2008, I had to deal with the mental, emotional aftermath.  But, it was great for psychological reasons, because I learned so much about myself and my relationships with other people.  Kind of a quarterlife growing up process.  And, as of yesterday, I applied to go back to my alma mater to get a 2nd degree in landscape architecture.  I don&#8217;t know if I can make it happen, but I thrive on taking a chance.  I&#8217;m hopeful!</p>
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		<title>By: slythwolf</title>
		<link>http://kateharding.net/2009/01/06/reverse-resolutions/#comment-79427</link>
		<dc:creator>slythwolf</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 08 Jan 2009 08:34:04 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>I got diagnosed with ADHD. It&#039;s made an enormous difference to my life just to know that I&#039;m not lazy and incompetent, I legitimately have problems with certain things. Now that I have coverage again, I&#039;m going to get some medication for it and that should help out even more.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I got diagnosed with ADHD. It&#8217;s made an enormous difference to my life just to know that I&#8217;m not lazy and incompetent, I legitimately have problems with certain things. Now that I have coverage again, I&#8217;m going to get some medication for it and that should help out even more.</p>
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		<title>By: Deborah M</title>
		<link>http://kateharding.net/2009/01/06/reverse-resolutions/#comment-79421</link>
		<dc:creator>Deborah M</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 08 Jan 2009 07:13:39 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>I usually tend to think of years as the year I was &#039;33&#039; or &#039;34&#039; rather than the calendar year, and I never make resolutions - but having said that, 2008 was a radically different year from any other I&#039;ve ever had; and for the same reason, both totally wonderful and absolutely awful.

I became a mother :-)

Which is a totally amazing thing, particularly considering that this 35 year old had never even had a relationship until she was 34, so meeting wonderful husband and getting engaged and married made 2007 all kinds of wonderful.

I got pregnant in February, and our son was born in October. March to September were basically total hell. Although the pregnancy progressed totally normally, thankfully, and our little one is healthy and gorgeous as can be, my body REALLY did not like being pregnant. Six months of throwing up and constant nausea... just awful.

So, the experience was awful, but the result was amazing. Having fought and loathed my body for so much of my life, to see it produce this new perfect little guy was incredible.

I am now trying to deal emotionally with the extra 20 pounds the pregnancy left me with and not let it get me down. It&#039;s hard because after years of yoyoing I had spent the last four years at a consistent weight and got used to that &#039;me&#039;. I have had a couple of meltdowns and depressed days but I am trying to focus on the good. I have bought lots of cute clothes to wear *now* and have put away my cute clothes from before until they fit me again (if they ever do) - but I am just eating healthy and will see what happens, and am reminding myself that I am still gorgeous with those extra pounds. 

And I have a son!</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I usually tend to think of years as the year I was &#8216;33&#8242; or &#8216;34&#8242; rather than the calendar year, and I never make resolutions &#8211; but having said that, 2008 was a radically different year from any other I&#8217;ve ever had; and for the same reason, both totally wonderful and absolutely awful.</p>
<p>I became a mother :-)</p>
<p>Which is a totally amazing thing, particularly considering that this 35 year old had never even had a relationship until she was 34, so meeting wonderful husband and getting engaged and married made 2007 all kinds of wonderful.</p>
<p>I got pregnant in February, and our son was born in October. March to September were basically total hell. Although the pregnancy progressed totally normally, thankfully, and our little one is healthy and gorgeous as can be, my body REALLY did not like being pregnant. Six months of throwing up and constant nausea&#8230; just awful.</p>
<p>So, the experience was awful, but the result was amazing. Having fought and loathed my body for so much of my life, to see it produce this new perfect little guy was incredible.</p>
<p>I am now trying to deal emotionally with the extra 20 pounds the pregnancy left me with and not let it get me down. It&#8217;s hard because after years of yoyoing I had spent the last four years at a consistent weight and got used to that &#8216;me&#8217;. I have had a couple of meltdowns and depressed days but I am trying to focus on the good. I have bought lots of cute clothes to wear *now* and have put away my cute clothes from before until they fit me again (if they ever do) &#8211; but I am just eating healthy and will see what happens, and am reminding myself that I am still gorgeous with those extra pounds. </p>
<p>And I have a son!</p>
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		<title>By: lt</title>
		<link>http://kateharding.net/2009/01/06/reverse-resolutions/#comment-79416</link>
		<dc:creator>lt</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 08 Jan 2009 05:15:07 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>After an indulgent dinner (pheasant! rabbit!!) with a good friend, I&#039;ve decided to revise my antipathy towards resolutions. My resolutions are now - to eat more rich foods, drink more, and have more sex.  After all, someone&#039;s got to balance out all the folks resolving to do less of these things, no?</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>After an indulgent dinner (pheasant! rabbit!!) with a good friend, I&#8217;ve decided to revise my antipathy towards resolutions. My resolutions are now &#8211; to eat more rich foods, drink more, and have more sex.  After all, someone&#8217;s got to balance out all the folks resolving to do less of these things, no?</p>
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		<title>By: The Amazing Kim</title>
		<link>http://kateharding.net/2009/01/06/reverse-resolutions/#comment-79402</link>
		<dc:creator>The Amazing Kim</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 08 Jan 2009 03:33:47 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Thanks for the joy, Lu - everyone else I know has taken the news like I&#039;m going into the monastery and taking all the puppies with me. 

Personally, I&#039;m very excited. 

Thanks for the cheese advice - I&#039;ll certainly give abstinance a try. Living in a small Australian town, the problem isn&#039;t so much choosing between brands, but finding anything at all (besides blank stares). The farmers&#039; market here does have a good vegetarian kimchi, though.

&lt;i&gt;Does anyone else have a dog who’s tail wags when they get a hug?&lt;/i&gt;

Not, but my cat does... before he claws a whole through the closest object (usually me) to escape.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Thanks for the joy, Lu &#8211; everyone else I know has taken the news like I&#8217;m going into the monastery and taking all the puppies with me. </p>
<p>Personally, I&#8217;m very excited. </p>
<p>Thanks for the cheese advice &#8211; I&#8217;ll certainly give abstinance a try. Living in a small Australian town, the problem isn&#8217;t so much choosing between brands, but finding anything at all (besides blank stares). The farmers&#8217; market here does have a good vegetarian kimchi, though.</p>
<p><i>Does anyone else have a dog who’s tail wags when they get a hug?</i></p>
<p>Not, but my cat does&#8230; before he claws a whole through the closest object (usually me) to escape.</p>
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		<title>By: bellacoker</title>
		<link>http://kateharding.net/2009/01/06/reverse-resolutions/#comment-79396</link>
		<dc:creator>bellacoker</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 08 Jan 2009 01:42:38 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>OK, I&#039;m sold on fencing, you all make it sound wonderful.  I will though, proactively, see about talking to the instructors about jackety things and sizes.  I am a inbetweenie with mega-boobs, so most jackets don&#039;t fit me anyway, and it looks like I could get my own off the internet for like $40.  

Thank y&#039;all!!</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>OK, I&#8217;m sold on fencing, you all make it sound wonderful.  I will though, proactively, see about talking to the instructors about jackety things and sizes.  I am a inbetweenie with mega-boobs, so most jackets don&#8217;t fit me anyway, and it looks like I could get my own off the internet for like $40.  </p>
<p>Thank y&#8217;all!!</p>
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		<title>By: HeatherRadish</title>
		<link>http://kateharding.net/2009/01/06/reverse-resolutions/#comment-79395</link>
		<dc:creator>HeatherRadish</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 08 Jan 2009 01:41:52 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>I started weight training (again, I did it for awhile in 2001-2002 and never started again after a bout with Epstein-Barr virus).  I like the &quot;one push-up&quot; resolution--I might have the arms for it by the end of the year. :)

I also got a passport and visited my friend in Bavaria, after about six years of just meeting him around the States.  The furthest I&#039;d been before was Canada.  That was so much fun I think I should do it again.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I started weight training (again, I did it for awhile in 2001-2002 and never started again after a bout with Epstein-Barr virus).  I like the &#8220;one push-up&#8221; resolution&#8211;I might have the arms for it by the end of the year. :)</p>
<p>I also got a passport and visited my friend in Bavaria, after about six years of just meeting him around the States.  The furthest I&#8217;d been before was Canada.  That was so much fun I think I should do it again.</p>
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