Comments on: The thinking man’s circle jerk http://kateharding.net/2008/12/31/the-thinking-mans-circle-jerk/ Sun, 22 Nov 2009 00:35:36 +0000 http://wordpress.com/ hourly 1 By: madamlibrarian http://kateharding.net/2008/12/31/the-thinking-mans-circle-jerk/#comment-79984 madamlibrarian Sat, 10 Jan 2009 04:00:47 +0000 http://kateharding.net/?p=2364#comment-79984 LONG time lurker, first (?) time commenter to add: And all these years I was certain that Toure was gay. Guess he should've started on that list 15 years ago. Way to prove your hetero-masculinity, homie! LONG time lurker, first (?) time commenter to add:

And all these years I was certain that Toure was gay. Guess he should’ve started on that list 15 years ago. Way to prove your hetero-masculinity, homie!

]]> By: Twistie http://kateharding.net/2008/12/31/the-thinking-mans-circle-jerk/#comment-78878 Twistie Sat, 03 Jan 2009 19:03:28 +0000 http://kateharding.net/?p=2364#comment-78878 Sugarleigh and Erika, there are actual, really nice guys out there who are not threatened by a woman with a brain and the willingness to voice a real opinion. I know. I married one. In fact, I knew Mr. Twistie and I were going to be for the long haul the day I admitted I didn't much like one of his songs and he heaved a sigh of relief because he knew that I would always be honest about my tastes. He's also supportive of my writing, and gave me a Christmas present (The Sims 2 plus the Pets expansion pack) that are currently driving him up a tree. In return, I try to be honest but not hurtful when I think one of his songs isn't working, and to save up my Sims playing mostly for times when he isn't here. It's called mutual respect, and it's a beautiful thing. I hope both of you find it soon. Sugarleigh and Erika, there are actual, really nice guys out there who are not threatened by a woman with a brain and the willingness to voice a real opinion. I know. I married one.

In fact, I knew Mr. Twistie and I were going to be for the long haul the day I admitted I didn’t much like one of his songs and he heaved a sigh of relief because he knew that I would always be honest about my tastes.

He’s also supportive of my writing, and gave me a Christmas present (The Sims 2 plus the Pets expansion pack) that are currently driving him up a tree.

In return, I try to be honest but not hurtful when I think one of his songs isn’t working, and to save up my Sims playing mostly for times when he isn’t here.

It’s called mutual respect, and it’s a beautiful thing.

I hope both of you find it soon.

]]> By: Lidon http://kateharding.net/2008/12/31/the-thinking-mans-circle-jerk/#comment-78844 Lidon Fri, 02 Jan 2009 22:15:02 +0000 http://kateharding.net/?p=2364#comment-78844 I noticed "ugh" expressed on here a few times. My sentiments exactly! "Not having a castrating nature"?? Right. I'll be sure not to have the audacity to voice my opinions next time, lest they be mistaken for "castration". Lol what would it sound like if I concocted my own list of desirable traits in men? "Someone who doesn't have a raping nature. That would be great." I noticed “ugh” expressed on here a few times. My sentiments exactly! “Not having a castrating nature”?? Right. I’ll be sure not to have the audacity to voice my opinions next time, lest they be mistaken for “castration”. Lol what would it sound like if I concocted my own list of desirable traits in men? “Someone who doesn’t have a raping nature. That would be great.”

]]> By: SugarLeigh http://kateharding.net/2008/12/31/the-thinking-mans-circle-jerk/#comment-78818 SugarLeigh Thu, 01 Jan 2009 19:59:55 +0000 http://kateharding.net/?p=2364#comment-78818 Erika, since my rant was WAY bigger than yours, and was not only okay but got me some much-needed support (I can't thank you enough, Shapelings!), I'd say yours is totally acceptable. And, as one might be able to deduce, I totally, one hundred percent hear you! ((super hugs and sparkle rays!)) (sparkle rays are shiny rainbows that sing for nice people and direct little birds to poo on the heads of jerks) The really sad part is, I don't think people like you and me, of both sexes, are even all that incredibly rare... I just think it's nigh-on freakin' impossible for us to MEET! It's like we exist in scattered pockets or something. Frustrating! Erika, since my rant was WAY bigger than yours, and was not only okay but got me some much-needed support (I can’t thank you enough, Shapelings!), I’d say yours is totally acceptable. And, as one might be able to deduce, I totally, one hundred percent hear you!

((super hugs and sparkle rays!))

(sparkle rays are shiny rainbows that sing for nice people and direct little birds to poo on the heads of jerks)

The really sad part is, I don’t think people like you and me, of both sexes, are even all that incredibly rare… I just think it’s nigh-on freakin’ impossible for us to MEET! It’s like we exist in scattered pockets or something. Frustrating!

]]> By: Erika http://kateharding.net/2008/12/31/the-thinking-mans-circle-jerk/#comment-78817 Erika Thu, 01 Jan 2009 19:45:06 +0000 http://kateharding.net/?p=2364#comment-78817 This shit is so depressing. Must every woman be reduced to masturbation material? Ugh, I have had such bad experiences with boys lately, and I am just giving up on them for now. Are there any that will appreciate that I am smart and fun and read like crazy? Jhumpa Lahiri is one of my favorite contemporary authors and the fact that she gets singled out not for her genius, but for her looks, is so incredibly sad I can't even express it fully. (This also happens to Zadie Smith a lot too, hmph) If it happens to her, what chance do *I* have at being appreciated? BAH, I am tired of being lonely, but I am tired of being objectified and then "OHHH you're sooooo smart, wooooowwwww," as if I'm some sort of little toy or accessory. Apologies for ranting This shit is so depressing. Must every woman be reduced to masturbation material? Ugh, I have had such bad experiences with boys lately, and I am just giving up on them for now. Are there any that will appreciate that I am smart and fun and read like crazy?

Jhumpa Lahiri is one of my favorite contemporary authors and the fact that she gets singled out not for her genius, but for her looks, is so incredibly sad I can’t even express it fully. (This also happens to Zadie Smith a lot too, hmph) If it happens to her, what chance do *I* have at being appreciated? BAH, I am tired of being lonely, but I am tired of being objectified and then “OHHH you’re sooooo smart, wooooowwwww,” as if I’m some sort of little toy or accessory.

Apologies for ranting

]]> By: Mouse http://kateharding.net/2008/12/31/the-thinking-mans-circle-jerk/#comment-78812 Mouse Thu, 01 Jan 2009 18:49:17 +0000 http://kateharding.net/?p=2364#comment-78812 SugarLeigh, the not-stopping-when-it's-not-even-funny-anymore sounds sorta familiar, but I figure I need to be clearer on that so it's my fault anyway. *tangent* Anyway, don't blame yourself. It's not always your exclusive job to make him feel better and the relationship go smoothly, if there's a problem, it's both your responsibility. Sorry if I sound lecture-y. On the Nice Guy thing, yes. People suck so much sometimes. I got talked into a relationship a while ago, (didn't want to lose what little support I had left in a difficult time so I gave in), and after he got what he wanted (=sex) he turned into a complete ass and buggered off with my money. Not exactly the same phenomenon, but I tend to ramble. SugarLeigh, the not-stopping-when-it’s-not-even-funny-anymore sounds sorta familiar, but I figure I need to be clearer on that so it’s my fault anyway. *tangent* Anyway, don’t blame yourself. It’s not always your exclusive job to make him feel better and the relationship go smoothly, if there’s a problem, it’s both your responsibility. Sorry if I sound lecture-y.

On the Nice Guy thing, yes. People suck so much sometimes. I got talked into a relationship a while ago, (didn’t want to lose what little support I had left in a difficult time so I gave in), and after he got what he wanted (=sex) he turned into a complete ass and buggered off with my money. Not exactly the same phenomenon, but I tend to ramble.

]]> By: Andi Bowler http://kateharding.net/2008/12/31/the-thinking-mans-circle-jerk/#comment-78810 Andi Bowler Thu, 01 Jan 2009 18:46:48 +0000 http://kateharding.net/?p=2364#comment-78810 <i>The lower mind is a brainless whore excited by any woman with breasts, curves, and a thong. The upper mind, which works with actual grey matter, is more persnickety. The upper mind, when employed, is moved by intelligence, success, power, self-confidence, a smart sense of humor, and, of course, not having a castrating nature.</i> Holy crap! Replace "breasts, curves, and a thong" with "a small waist, nice hands, and big dick" and that's how MY mind works! I am a Thinking Man trapped in a woman's body! HALP! The lower mind is a brainless whore excited by any woman with breasts, curves, and a thong. The upper mind, which works with actual grey matter, is more persnickety. The upper mind, when employed, is moved by intelligence, success, power, self-confidence, a smart sense of humor, and, of course, not having a castrating nature.

Holy crap! Replace “breasts, curves, and a thong” with “a small waist, nice hands, and big dick” and that’s how MY mind works! I am a Thinking Man trapped in a woman’s body! HALP!

]]> By: kateharding http://kateharding.net/2008/12/31/the-thinking-mans-circle-jerk/#comment-78795 kateharding Thu, 01 Jan 2009 16:58:32 +0000 http://kateharding.net/?p=2364#comment-78795 (((SugarLeigh))) The people above are wise. Listen to them. And yes, go read Heartless Bitches International. (((SugarLeigh)))

The people above are wise. Listen to them. And yes, go read Heartless Bitches International.

]]> By: Valerie http://kateharding.net/2008/12/31/the-thinking-mans-circle-jerk/#comment-78792 Valerie Thu, 01 Jan 2009 16:43:30 +0000 http://kateharding.net/?p=2364#comment-78792 Since I use douchhound and douchebag so much more frequently now, I am happy to allow testicular larceny to be used by the commons. :) @ anaham And notice the use of 'hypnotic' eyes. Exoticism anybody? @ Sugarleigh Don't sell yourself short, you've definitely done some growing since you're seeing the red flags before you've been with him for years.Maintaining a friendship with someone who isn't even a good friend when you're dating is a waste of your time. Since I use douchhound and douchebag so much more frequently now, I am happy to allow testicular larceny to be used by the commons. :)

@ anaham

And notice the use of ‘hypnotic’ eyes. Exoticism anybody?

@ Sugarleigh

Don’t sell yourself short, you’ve definitely done some growing since you’re seeing the red flags before you’ve been with him for years.Maintaining a friendship with someone who isn’t even a good friend when you’re dating is a waste of your time.

]]> By: tangle http://kateharding.net/2008/12/31/the-thinking-mans-circle-jerk/#comment-78784 tangle Wed, 31 Dec 2008 22:32:51 +0000 http://kateharding.net/?p=2364#comment-78784 If she’s the smartest chick in the room and she’s going home with you, what does that say about you? Um, you live with your mom and she's taking you home before you do something dumb? If she’s the smartest chick in the room and she’s going home with you, what does that say about you?

Um, you live with your mom and she’s taking you home before you do something dumb?

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