Go read her latest entry on common misunderstandings about HAES.
Everyone is limited, physically or mentally, to a certain extent. HAES must work within those limitations. And because humans come in all shades of disease — from Crohn’s, to diabetes, to cancer and chemotherapy, to eating disorders, to fibromyalgia — there is no tool that can be definitively excluded from being used within HAES.
But ANY tool, no matter how innocuous and HAES-friendly it seems, if used to flagellate yourself, becomes instantly outré. Even intuitive eating. Even yoga. Even anything, if done with the slightest shade of self-hatred.
I would rather someone count calories* while truly believing in fat acceptance and HAES, than to practice intuitive eating in the secret hope that they will lose weight, and to beat themselves up when they ‘fail’ at it.
HAES is a paradigm shift, not simply a new diet. Without the beliefs, the behaviours are meaningless.
Michelle’s closed comments on that entry, which I can completely understand. I’m leaving them open here, but I’ll ask that people be even more circumspect than usual about their comments here. This thread is for asking sincere questions about HAES, discussing various definitions of “health,” talking about the difficulties of making that paradigm shift (if you’ve tried to or are interested in trying), talking about why HAES is or is not right for you, and of course, talking about how freakin’ smart and awesome Michelle is. It is not for detailing what you eat or how much you exercise, telling us all why you still think you need to lose weight (try this thread and this thread for that), insulting people who make different choices than you do, accusing people here of trying to separate “good” fatties from “bad” fatties (try this thread), or telling Michelle she is anything other than smart and awesome. Got it? Excellent. Fire away.
*If you didn’t read the whole post, which you really should, she means counting calories because for whatever reason, you need some structure to your eating habits — and because knowing how many calories you consume doesn’t trigger dieting behavior for you. She’s perfectly clear on the point that trying to lose weight is antithetical to HAES.