Okay, first: AWESOME

And second, my breasts are not even that large (DD) and half the time all I can find are minimizing bras. I find this baffling. Why would I want to smother my poor girls? They never did anything to me.

M&S’s selection sounds pretty much like what Macy’s (and JC Penney, etc.) here has for women over D-cup. My Rack of Doom wears a 30F (which isn’t made by mainstream US manufacturers) so I’m pretty much out of luck unless I shop online. And yeah, I don’t want minimizers either. Like the nice lady at Von Maur who sold me a 32E that actually fits pretty well (runs small in the band), women pay good money to have breasts like mine. I’m not going to smash them flat with ugly bras that cost the same as the pretty ones.

I have a definite Rack of Doom. And when I was at my biggest, the girls were a 38G (not sure what the US equivalent is, but these mothas were huge). And I went into Marks & Spencer, the shop where pretty much all us brits buy bras.

Except for me that day – because all they had were minimiser bras. Which don’t work for me, as they basically tuck my tits under my arms and make them look smaller and flatter.

Anyway, this particular day I walked into the shop and browsed these ugly, surgical looking bras. I went up to the assistant and asked if there were any more bras in my size. She was about 16, bored, blatantly couldn’t give a shit about a fat girl wanting a nice bra. She said no, only the minimisers. And I was furious – at not being able to find nice underwear, at her rudeness, at life etc. So I practically shouted at her ‘Why would I want a minimiser? I have MAGNIFICENT breasts!’ and stomped off.

That was years ago, but it still makes me laugh. Still feels good.

I’ve said it myself. I remember too well being a teenage girl, and I graduated from high school 12 years ago. It was bad enough then. I’m not sure I would have survived it if I were in the class of 2008. I can’t imagine watching a daughter go through that hell. Not that it’s so easy for boys, I guess, but this entire culture seems to be set up to put women in their place as silent, starving sex objects, and to teach men that women should be expected to behave as such.

Friends of mine have been heard to say: “I want to have boys because trying to raise a girl to be sane in this culture is too scary!”

So…it leads directly to LESS GIRLS. To people who love girls, not wanting the responsibility of a girl in our diet-obsessed rape culture.

I only write about this to say, yes, HELL yes, there is a direct link between fatphobia and people not wanting to parent girls!!! Fatphobia is not just a LITTLE sexist and misogynistic; it is EXTREME.

Let’s be honest, that’s the only reason I do anything.

Also, someone’s playing the beluga. This place makes me so happy I could cry.

Not if you refer to them as “yappy little rat-dogs”.

*headtilt* They have another name?