Happy International No Diet Day! (Part 2)

Update: Ha! Fillyjonk and I posted at the same time.

Duh, I completely forgot it was International No Diet Day until I saw the other fatosphere posts about it. (Which is especially stupid because, if all goes well, The Rotund, our editor, and I are hoping to bring our book out on International No Diet Day, 2009.)

Founded by Mary Evans Young in 1992, International No Diet Day is a day to “declare a personal one-day moratorium on dieting.”

If you need some extra motivation to reject the dieting culture and the pressure to be thin, check out the Council on Size and Weight Discrimination’s facts and figures page, including these gems:

Seventy percent of normal weight girls in high school feel fat and are on a diet. Ferron, C. “Body Image in adolescence in cross-cultural research” Adolescence 32 (1997), pp. 735-745.

Over half of the females studied between ages eighteen and twenty-five would prefer to be run over by a truck than to be fat, and two-thirds would choose to be mean or stupid rather than fat. Gaesser, Glenn A., PhD. Big Fat Lies: The truth about your weight and your health. Gurze Books, 2001.

A survey of college students found that they would prefer to marry an embezzler, drug user, shoplifter, or blind person than someone who is fat.* Gaesser, Glenn A., PhD. Big Fat Lies: The truth about your weight and your health. Gurze Books, 2001.

Up to thirty-five percent of normal dieters will progress to pathological dieting and, of those, twenty to twenty-five percent will progress to partial or full-blown eating disorders. Shisslak, C.M., Crago, M., and Estes, L.S., “The spectrum of eating disturbances,” Intl Journal of Eating Disorders 18 (3) (1995) pp. 209-219.

So just for today, if not for always, take Sweet Machine’s advice and

remind yourself, even if you know it already: your body is not a sign of failure. Your body is not a punishment for your moral character. You are not lazy because you are fat. (And if you are lazy, that’s nobody’s business but your own!)

Then eat when you’re hungry. It’s okay, really.

*Note: I don’t see why marrying a blind person would be an unappealing option–except for certain practical difficulties which one assumes would be non-issues if you were in love–and I certainly don’t like the implied equivalence of a partner with disabilities and one who’s a freakin’ criminal. I’m just quoting over here.

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41 thoughts on “Happy International No Diet Day! (Part 2)

  1. Thanks for the asterisk at the end. I was totally ready to make a big speech about equating “blind person” with “drug user,” but you did it for me. :)

  2. A-freakin’-men! Sing it, sister!

    I’d also like to note that my grandmother’s second husband was both fat and blind…and a really great guy who made my grandmother happy. I wouldn’t have wished anything about him to be different than it was. Well, I admit that at ten I would have enjoyed it if he’d had more of a sense of humor, but then my grandmother didn’t have one, either. It made them a perfect match.

    I’ve known a couple people who were married to serious drug users. I wouldn’t wish that hell on anyone.

  3. I was kind of wondering why a blind person was equivalent to a criminal too; thanks for adding that note at the end :)

  4. Man, throwing “blind person” in there is so terminally weird. Way to undermine your own study, survey person.

    Sorry about the cross-post!

  5. I’ll out myself here. I’m thin effortlessly. I’m conventionally attractive. I really enjoy both. There are a whole lot of things on my to-do list ahead of “get fat.”

    Mean and stupid aren’t any of them. Eating disorders aren’t on the list. And, honestly, skipping meals isn’t either.

    Maybe I’m lucky. Maybe I just can’t know what I’d do to escape the “shame” of being fat unless/until I get there. But, really, marrying a criminal? That’s better?

  6. A survey of college students found that they would prefer to marry an embezzler, drug user, shoplifter, or blind person than someone who is fat.

    I feel the same way about this as I do about those people that said they would forgo their limbs rather than be fat. Ask those married to embezzlers, drug users etc, if they would rather their spouses were fat and law abiding (assuming of course that they aren’t already fat; in which case fatter).

    As for the blind person crack, this illustrates what a crude show fat hating is. Almost all of it is senseless posing. It is mainly for the insincere those who are already and those about to become so. I cannot understand how anyone with any respect for whatever intelligence they have wallows in this filth.

  7. I know this is totally off track on the post, but I would also like to thank you so much for your comment on the “blind” quote (and to the rest of you that found it just as offensive). My beautiful son is legally blind and to think someone would equate marrying my kind and very intelligent son to marrying a criminal just pisses me off and makes my heart ache.

    Oh and I think that anyone who would rather be mean or stupid then be fat probably already is.

  8. “Oh and I think that anyone who would rather be mean or stupid then be fat probably already is.”

    stlwtr FTW.

  9. Oh and I think that anyone who would rather be mean or stupid then be fat probably already is.

    Amen.

  10. What everyone else said about the idiot who included “blind” on that list, but also… RUN OVER by a TRUCK? Really? Run over by a truck. That’s preferable to being fat?

    Okay, you go play in traffic, and I’ll sit here and eat my cheese Danish, and we’ll see who has more fun.

  11. Linz, there’s no way you could have known this–and in fact, I feel like an ass for not thinking of it myself when I posted that quote–but FJ and SM recently lost a friend who actually was hit by a truck. So I’m going to call for no more “go play in traffic comments” here, even in jest.

    And yeah, especially when the reality of that has been brought home, it’s astonishing and sickening to think that people would honestly say they’d prefer a brutal death to being fat.

  12. Jesus. I apologize for my tone–I shouldn’t have said that so flippantly. But, yeah, sarcasm aside, my point still stands.

  13. Maybe it’s because I used to work for a company that made products for blind people and had many blind people working for it, but I really can’t see how anyone could think that’s bad. I mean, maybe a bit difficult to get used to, but actually bad or tragic like the other examples? Really?

    Which I guess makes marrying a person who is blind a lot like being fat :)

    Youre body is not a sign of failure

    I’d like that on a pillow please.

  14. I actually had a realisation along those lines of the sweetmachine quote about two weeks ago — that my body is not my fault, because my body is no one’s “fault” and there isn’t a damn thing wrong with it.

    I do not have this stomach because I am lazy or stupid or anything else, I have it because my mother had it before me (until she dieted it away with the WW craziness), and because I am meant to be this way. This body is not a badge of moral failure or anything else negative; it just is, and now it’s up to me to embrace it and rock it out. (Much like my hair, which is thick and has a complete mind of its own, and which I’ve always been kind of proud of for its complete refusal to conform to societal norms. You can’t tell my hair what to do, like. So why should I expect my body to be any different, or be any less proud if it for refusing to be beaten into submission?)

    That whole thing pretty much blew my mind, and was a big part of the step from “this FA all sounds great in theory but it’s not for me til I lose some more weight” to “I AM PERFECT JUST AS I AM AND SOCIETY CAN FUCK RIGHT OFF” (which I still have to say all angry like that, because I’ve not made complete peace with it yet and I am better at “angry” than “self belief” :D )

    In conclusion: Your body is not a sign of failure.

    Yes. This.

  15. It’s nice to come here for the fresh air. I was just over at Broadsheet on Salon, and there’s an article about how Nowadays Men Don’t Necessarily Want Sex All The Time. OMG, who knew? (My first two serious relationships were with men who wanted to stay virgins, in college, twenty plus years ago. So I get an extra big :rolleyes: here. )

    And, of course, in the comments they’re angsting about how this is probably caused by obesity; because you know how difficult sex while fat is, and how fat people never get any exercise so they’d be too flabby to exert themselves for the extra difficulties experienced in fat sex. Grrr.

    I want to slap those posters with a dead mackarel. (Gently, of course, no actual harm is intended.)

  16. Broadsheet comments are like a million sanity watcher’s points each. Never read broadsheet comments!

    And, erm, Caitlin, you’re not my sister are you?

  17. And, of course, in the comments they’re angsting about how this is probably caused by obesity;

    Oof.

    Having said that, reading Broadsheet comments is always a bad idea. As I already knew but have relearned the hard way when checking the ones on my own posts.

  18. Why is it that some places attract teh craziez? Do they all find out that there’s somewhere they can rant like idiots and won’t get deleted? Or is does Broadsheet have crazy commenter pheromones that only the idjits can smell?

    I just don’t understand why there’s so much stupid.

  19. Heh, I have a sister named Caitlin with a stomach and crazy thick hair, and we have a mom on WW, so I just thought I’d ask!

  20. Lexy, I’ve said this here before, but I’ve heard there’s an MRA group that encourages its members to troll Broadsheet. Not sure why, I think they’re offended at its very existence.

  21. And, of course, in the comments they’re angsting about how this is probably caused by obesity

    Aaaaand I don’t even have to read the comments to know they mean the women’s “obesity,” not the men’s. Men deserve round-the-clock sexual servicing by YOUNG ‘N” HAWWWT BABES regardless of their age or looks; women have to earn it by being completely free of wrinkles and flab and agreeing to defenestrate themselves the second they turn 35.

    Not sure why, I think they’re offended at its very existence.

    Yep, that’s exactly why. “Why isn’t there a Dudesheet?” they cry. Like every other frigging publication in the world isn’t “Dudesheet” already.

  22. Enjoy your food day. I had 2 pieces of thick cheese, mushroom, garlic, and green olive sicilian pizza and pellegrino. MMMmmmmmmm, I’m wondering what to have for dessert. I hope everyone else is having delicious food all day today.

  23. @Meowser: Defenestrate! Defenestrate! That’s my favourite verb in all the world. *glee*

    I have a sister named Caitlin with a stomach and crazy thick hair,

    How excellent. Alas, she is not me. I was on the phone to my sister when I read your comment and I know she runs round the internet so I had to check if she was you. Ah, internet anonymity! What scope for confusion you provide. :D

  24. Okay. This is way off topic, but why does everyone seem to have a new cool 3rd grade construction paper cutout snowflake looking avatar but me?

  25. Oh, I have one too! And itz mah fayvoritt culluh!

    Nevr mynde nao plz.

    *kthx*

    *runs*

    *hides*

  26. @Meowser, I can hear it now, the joyful chorus from The Defenestration of Tosca. Good times, good times.

    I do adore defenestration, but I’m also fond of my mother’s favorite word: deracinate.

    Wow. Young men forced by teh fatz of their potential partners to turn to chastity??? Oh, the hugemanatee!!! My heart bleeds peanut butter. Extra chunky, no less.

    I don’t suppose any of them might have chosen chastity because of personal morals, regligious beliefs, terror of STDs or simply wanting to wait until they are making love to someone who matters to them, could they? I mean, all guys NEED TEH SECKS ALL TEH TYMME!!! If they don’t get it, then they will keel over and DIEEE, won’t they?

    Sheesh! Some people will believe any crap.

  27. Wow, looking at those surveys, I get the idea that the respondents would be shocked that my father, who is both fat *and* blind, has been married not once, but twice! Shocking, I know. He must be the only one in the world, except for how I’m sure he’s not.

  28. I could come up with some wicked ideas for something like those dramatic PSAs, to show what this means. Like say, someone says “I’d rather be run over by a truck than be fat.” Then a truck rolls over them, and you show a gorey image of them with their bones broken and blood, and how they look when they’re dead. Then say, “Do you really think this should be considered a reasonable alternative to living fat?”

    That most likely would be way too gorey for most people, but I’m a horror film fan. So you know, I’m rather desensitized to all of that.

  29. ” A survey of college students found that they would prefer to marry an embezzler, drug user, shoplifter, or blind person than someone who is fat.”

    Well geez, alcoholic shoplifting fat people can’t get no breaks in this world. Speaking as someone who is an addict, I resent being someone’s worst case scenario. Addiction is not a moral failing and does not make you a disposable human being. (I say is and not was, I’m still an alcoholic even though I’m not drinking.)

  30. This thread’s probably dead, but I can’t resist saying that I, too, cannot believe they equated blind people to criminals. I’ve had a blind housemate for a few years now, and it’s just 100% Not A Big Deal. There are things we all do to accommodate those who live with us, and “don’t leave the ottoman in the middle of the living room floor where Kes might trip over it” isn’t a harder habit to get into than “don’t leave your wet clothes in the washer for hours, thereby preventing someone else from using it.” I can’t speak for her (sighted) husband, but they’re very much in love, and I don’t get the impression that anything he does for her, whether it’s related to her blindness or not, feels like a burden to him.

  31. “an embezzler, drug user, shoplifter, or blind person than someone who is fat.”

    …i’m sorry, but who even *designs* a study with all those traits as equivalents. seriously??

    i saw your note, kate, honestly. but what the fuck. SERIOUSLY? holy fucking hell, dude.

  32. Um, help? I’m feeling tempted to diet! I’m at the high range of what I’d always thought to be my basic 20-pound range, which wouldn’t ordinarily make me feel ugly and SHOULDN’T, anyway, make me feel ugly… but it’s wrapped up with my feelings about my post-two-kids body that I’m having a hard time with, seeing some pictures of myself from six or seven years ago when I was at the “low” end, feeling like the emotional connection in my marriage has cooled, and the fact that I’ve been more active than usual lately (not for weight loss) and was surprised when I didn’t start feeling leaner.

    I guess I’ve still got a ways to go on my FA journey. So I thought I’d send up a “need assistance” flare here at SP. I did a search for a thread that was marginally relevant so I didn’t hijack the more current threads. Hope that’s okay.

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