Still, if food is your “love language”, a part of me wants to politely ask you to grow up. If you’re able to give people food without caring that they immediately put it in the trash, and if you tell them that, that’s another matter. I was raised around very poor people, and giving me food or clothes that I don’t want creates a chore for me of figuring out someone who does want those things. I am not a baby that needs to be dressed or fed. I am a human being that needs attention and affection, however – a compliment, a conversation about me or my interests. Food or other gifts that you know I will appreciate are also good, but I suspect conversations will be necessary to make that happen.

This is coming out way snarkier than I mean it to be, because, duh, don’t look a gift horse in the mouth and all that. If you give me sweets I will smile and say thank you and put them in the freezer and eat them occasionally and think of you. If I know you well enough, I might say “no thank you I’m still working on the batch from last month”. I am not going to throw them in the trash, nor am I going to give them to someone else as soon as your back is turned because I think those things are rude. That said, people who insist on giving me gifts that I “obviously” don’t want – clothes that fit the giver’s sense of style more than mine, or food – seems to be to have something else going on. Are they lonely or controlling? I don’t know the psychology in that situation, but haven’t we all been given gifts that are really back-handed compliments?

“Your diet-oriented hissy-fit is sabotaging my intuitive eating. So no, I can’t stop bringing in food. Check and mate!”

…is the proper response to Whiny Dieter.

Because Playboy and Miss America have been around SINCE THE BEGINNING OF TIME.

I worked in an office where people brought in sweets all the time. When they asked me if I wanted one when I didn’t want one, I said “No, thank you.” Really, it’s as easy as that. If your whole diet plan is sabotaged by someone having a jar of candy on their desk, I think you probably have some emotional or disordered eating that ought to be addressed by a specialist, not WW.

Yes – the way a lot of these evolutionary psych types describe evolution, it’s a lot closer to creationism, isn’t it? A creation story that supports their particular moral beliefs, whatever those may be.

How can a supposedly ideal weight be described as overweight? That doesn’t make any sense. What’s the baseline–your skeleton?

I think that’s exactly what it is, since she seems to think that only 10%-20% body fat is appropriate for women (as it’s apparently the evolution-mandated amount).

@kira–excellent point, by the way. How can a supposedly ideal weight be described as overweight? That doesn’t make any sense. What’s the baseline–your skeleton?

Sarah (I had a WordPress account all along!)

And shame on Yvonne for falling back on that tiresome “OMG, look at what that fatty eats, she’s so disgusting!” Because y’know, it’s okay to be fat if you don’t eat brownies and McDonald’s.