Comments on: Double dog dare

By: Lady Lately

Lady Lately — Tue, 10 Mar 2009 00:28:02 +0000

It’s kinda funny that for the most part, I’m so wrapped up in books that I mostly live this. Then again, my merely thanking people for compliments comes from one comic in Queen of Wands that I read in middle school.

By: Virginia

Virginia — Tue, 18 Sep 2007 01:21:46 +0000

I do my best to make it a practice not to say negative things about my body out loud. I don’t diet, and I avoid diet talk. But that doesn’t stop me from shuddering every time I look in the mirror. I love the *idea* of actually loving my body, but I’m not nearly there yet.

By: sweetmachine

sweetmachine — Sat, 15 Sep 2007 14:51:25 +0000

You totally get extra points!

By: fatgirlonabike

fatgirlonabike — Sat, 15 Sep 2007 14:25:50 +0000

So do I get extra points for going an entire long weekend without saying anything bad about my body?

By: Cynthia

Cynthia — Fri, 14 Sep 2007 21:30:12 +0000

As an obese woman who is the mother of a recovering bulimic/anorectic (she happens to be in great shape now and living a healthy life), this was one of the first habits I had to learn to change. No matter how much I talked about beauty and health coming at all sizes, I was still role modeling loathing my own body. I wish I could have done it first for me, but love of my daughter taught me to stop the damn putting myself down, to accept compliments with the southern graciousness that I was taught and was teaching my daughter and to always make sure that we had enjoyable food in the house.

By: Roberta

Roberta — Fri, 14 Sep 2007 16:49:52 +0000

I am certain I can do one day. I’m pretty good, overall, about the languaging, about disengaging from other people’s conversations, and even about my viewpoints about food (fillerup with light cream in my coffee!)
Now on to them body image thoughts…

By: alainnmactire

alainnmactire — Fri, 14 Sep 2007 16:10:22 +0000

Brilliant post and a brilliant point!

Being at home mostly (I’m studying through Open Uni) I have no problem liking what I see in myself – I said to my partner the other day that the problem when I starved down to a stupidly thin size was that I felt sick looking at myself, even though I was getting all the “you look great” input.

Now, I’m fat, curvy and I like it (as does my partner!). The problem is other people feeling they have the right to comment – I have studied on campus before, and was the “fat mature student wearing old lady trousers”….

It’s strange and a sign of just how crazy society is, that even though I love my body, am confident with it and I like the way I dress (simple trousers and jeans with t-shirts or ethnic blouses), society feels it’s their right to walk up to me and say “But you can’t possibly be happy – you’re fat”.

By: colio2007

colio2007 — Fri, 14 Sep 2007 14:33:12 +0000

love it, SM. am chompin on some delicious lindt lemon tart chocolates a pal just gave me. and lovin it!

By: Eleanor Blair

Eleanor Blair — Fri, 14 Sep 2007 08:10:31 +0000

I was just thinking to myself “but I did this yesterday” and then I remembered a couple of grimaces at the size of my chin in some wedding photos from the weekend (not my wedding I hasten to add). But overall yesterday I felt pretty good with myself. I’ll keep trying.

By: Dorianne

Dorianne — Fri, 14 Sep 2007 04:02:54 +0000

Such a great post! I like to think I’m SOOOO good about diffusing this kind of talk and not engaging it, but I can remember an incident only a few weeks ago: an older woman, who said she used to do makeovers, told me at a bus stop that I had “lovely skin” and didn’t even need to wear makeup…and I immediately pointed to a couple of little zits on my chin I was trying to camouflage!!