Comments on: 13-Year-Old Follows up Lipo and Tummy Tuck with Lap-Band http://kateharding.net/2007/08/08/13-year-old-follows-up-lipo-and-tummy-tuck-with-lap-band/ 2007-2010 Thu, 15 Jul 2010 02:13:02 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.com/ By: mollie!atthefatso http://kateharding.net/2007/08/08/13-year-old-follows-up-lipo-and-tummy-tuck-with-lap-band/#comment-72033 Wed, 24 Sep 2008 09:20:19 +0000 http://kateharding.net/2007/08/08/13-year-old-follows-up-lipo-and-tummy-tuck-with-lap-band/#comment-72033 Pfahahahahhahahaha.
I’m twelve, 5’7”, and fat as…well, fat.
Have been all my life. My parents are fat. My sister is fat. I eat normally.
I would never consider, ever, ever, EVER getting surgery for it.
I’ve been called names, avoided, and friendless up until last year. I was treated as a pariah to the nth degree. My self-esteem was so effing low. You had no idea. And now, guess what? I’ve learned that it isn’t my being fat that’s making me feel like crap-it’s my culture’s obsession with thinness. And school just started for me, and GUESS WHAT.
I’m way happier and have more friends than I ever have. Shows what a little bit of confidence and the internet can do, right?
Sure, some people still make fun of me, but I DON’T CARE ANYMORE.
I made a friend out of one of my worst enemies. I was suuuucchhhh a beast last year, emotionally. So I was irritable and pissed off at everybody out of frustration because OMG! I WAS FAT! And this year, we sit next to each other in history and we’re really good friends, because she’s really really nice- I just didn’t see that, because I was being a total dumbass.

]]> By: Tomoko http://kateharding.net/2007/08/08/13-year-old-follows-up-lipo-and-tummy-tuck-with-lap-band/#comment-72027 Wed, 24 Sep 2008 03:24:37 +0000 http://kateharding.net/2007/08/08/13-year-old-follows-up-lipo-and-tummy-tuck-with-lap-band/#comment-72027 Oh, God, I have so been there. Not to the point where my parents wanted me to get lipo or my stomach stapled (though I know I’ve thought about it many a time), but my parents were unwittingly cruel. I’ve been a fat girl pretty much all my life, and my parents would constantly say things like “You need to eat better, or you’ll be 300lbs. in high school.” My mom in particular tried to be supportive, especially when I went clothes shopping (which sucked), but for the most part, it didn’t help.

I feel this girl’s pain. Having body issues at such a young age sucks.

]]> By: nightgigjo http://kateharding.net/2007/08/08/13-year-old-follows-up-lipo-and-tummy-tuck-with-lap-band/#comment-7642 Wed, 22 Aug 2007 04:22:01 +0000 http://kateharding.net/2007/08/08/13-year-old-follows-up-lipo-and-tummy-tuck-with-lap-band/#comment-7642 Sorry, should make this point clear:

My cousin should never have been bulliied about her weight by her own (overwrought and overworried) mother, EVER. I’m just glad the damage wasn’t as bad or as early as it was to Brooke.

This whole thing makes me inexpressably sad.

]]> By: nightgigjo http://kateharding.net/2007/08/08/13-year-old-follows-up-lipo-and-tummy-tuck-with-lap-band/#comment-7641 Wed, 22 Aug 2007 04:20:01 +0000 http://kateharding.net/2007/08/08/13-year-old-follows-up-lipo-and-tummy-tuck-with-lap-band/#comment-7641 This is simply proof to me that dieting causes weight gain.

I am so grateful that my sweet cousin (who turns 20 in a few days) didn’t start getting crap about her weight until she was 12 (and NOT fat, btw) and that her mother didn’t push her into surgery.

Oy. This poor, poor girl.

]]> By: M http://kateharding.net/2007/08/08/13-year-old-follows-up-lipo-and-tummy-tuck-with-lap-band/#comment-7141 Fri, 17 Aug 2007 14:47:28 +0000 http://kateharding.net/2007/08/08/13-year-old-follows-up-lipo-and-tummy-tuck-with-lap-band/#comment-7141 Of course she’s now going to get everything tucked and lifted agan when she looses weight, right?

]]> By: Kelli http://kateharding.net/2007/08/08/13-year-old-follows-up-lipo-and-tummy-tuck-with-lap-band/#comment-6432 Sat, 11 Aug 2007 11:52:55 +0000 http://kateharding.net/2007/08/08/13-year-old-follows-up-lipo-and-tummy-tuck-with-lap-band/#comment-6432 There is so much wrong with this story that it makes me head spin. Ultimately I keep ending up wondering about the parenting and why on earth the parents think multiple surgeries for weight loss are a good idea for a body that is not done growing.

]]> By: wriggles http://kateharding.net/2007/08/08/13-year-old-follows-up-lipo-and-tummy-tuck-with-lap-band/#comment-6341 Fri, 10 Aug 2007 14:58:07 +0000 http://kateharding.net/2007/08/08/13-year-old-follows-up-lipo-and-tummy-tuck-with-lap-band/#comment-6341 Thorn you said the road to hell is paved with good intentions, exactly. To say that this is hell so it was paved by malice, I’m not convinced.

Maybe I should be more shocked, I was shocked and enraged, when they stated that parents with fat children were child abusers. I was appalled and angry when the medical/health establishment said that they would consider and even recommend surgery for some children.

I think KH has said previously, that they don’t keep figures for child WLS, but it is occuring right now, and not just in the States either.
So maybe I don’t feel the visceral outrage that I should feel, it seems so inevitable, they are bringing to the surface what is happening. And to my knowledge Mexico is not the world centre for it.

I excuse no one, but I’ve noticed that the potency of WL both as an ideal and in reality, can be staggering. We have seen how the most highly learned and education fall for it like fools, why is this so hard to believe? Do we think they are better than us?

Do people that only anorexics, and possibly and us, end up in thrall to this shit because we are a bit silly, and everyone else is so level headed and superior that they couldn’t possibly be taken up into this madness? Why is it so hard to believe that everyone else that invests heavily can be drawn in, deluded, desperate and pathetic. Yeah, they should know better, so should most that get entangled in this.
It turns out they don’t have any better defense against this than
we do, because THEY ARE NOT SUPERIOR TO US.

]]> By: wriggles http://kateharding.net/2007/08/08/13-year-old-follows-up-lipo-and-tummy-tuck-with-lap-band/#comment-6338 Fri, 10 Aug 2007 14:34:03 +0000 http://kateharding.net/2007/08/08/13-year-old-follows-up-lipo-and-tummy-tuck-with-lap-band/#comment-6338 it’s the fat she rejects, as understandably, she doesn’t see it as part of her real self

The Rotund
I meant that as she has been constantly on a diet she cannot ‘bond’ with what she is trying to get rid of. Not that it is understandable that one shouldn’t accept one’s body.

I don’t accept that you can love yourself and hate your fat.

I think you can, if you believe you can achieve permanent WL, or are about to anytime soon.
I know that for a lot of us, this didn’t occur. But in some people it does.
It’s not possible when you cease to keep the faith, then they are incompatible.

]]> By: J. L. Gould http://kateharding.net/2007/08/08/13-year-old-follows-up-lipo-and-tummy-tuck-with-lap-band/#comment-6333 Fri, 10 Aug 2007 12:54:11 +0000 http://kateharding.net/2007/08/08/13-year-old-follows-up-lipo-and-tummy-tuck-with-lap-band/#comment-6333 Most of my thoughts on the subject have already been spoken. Suffice it to say that the parents are seriously in need of counseling themselves.
I wonder though…the mom states that the child has been on a diet since three-years of age. She talks of all sorts of diets and procedures, but I don’t see any mention of family ouings to go rollerblading or hiking or camping. I don’t see any mention of a family nutritionist. She just wants to find that “magic pill” and her daughter isn’t being taught any of the knowledge she will need to live a healthy life. Very sad.

]]> By: RoseCampion http://kateharding.net/2007/08/08/13-year-old-follows-up-lipo-and-tummy-tuck-with-lap-band/#comment-6305 Fri, 10 Aug 2007 02:38:55 +0000 http://kateharding.net/2007/08/08/13-year-old-follows-up-lipo-and-tummy-tuck-with-lap-band/#comment-6305 Hey, sort of, but not quite off topic, can anyone point me to the direction of some info about the real risks of lap band surgery? I just found out a friend has been talked into having it and I want to make sure she’s got a more balanced picture of it than the rosy one fed to her by the doctor’s. I just know that another friend of mine had a different kind of WLS and was fed all kinds of stuff by the doctors about how it would change her life forever, she’d be able to go off her diabetes meds and everything, and that turned out to be so not the case for her.

I’m especially hoping for real life stories/blogs/ etc. Of course, my Google-fu is too weak to find anything but the stuff put out there by the bariatric clinics.

thanks everyone.

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