Comments on: Fat Hatred Kills, Part One http://kateharding.net/2007/07/12/fat-hatred-kills-part-one/ Sat, 21 Nov 2009 20:49:17 +0000 http://wordpress.com/ hourly 1 By: Can you keep a secret? « The Ugly Duckling http://kateharding.net/2007/07/12/fat-hatred-kills-part-one/#comment-108388 Can you keep a secret? « The Ugly Duckling Sun, 23 Aug 2009 22:07:32 +0000 http://kateharding.net/2007/07/12/fat-hatred-kills-part-one/#comment-108388 [...] online or offline, can kill. After a lifetime of being called useless, unattractive, and worthless, how can you expect a person [...] [...] online or offline, can kill. After a lifetime of being called useless, unattractive, and worthless, how can you expect a person [...]

]]> By: Sweet Machine http://kateharding.net/2007/07/12/fat-hatred-kills-part-one/#comment-104964 Sweet Machine Wed, 29 Jul 2009 21:24:50 +0000 http://kateharding.net/2007/07/12/fat-hatred-kills-part-one/#comment-104964 Cat, I appreciate the rest of your comment, but as for this: <i>Fat discrimination is the last bastion of open and accepted prejudice left in our society.</i>, please see Rule 11 in our <a href="http://kateharding.net/comments-policy/" rel="nofollow">Comments Policy</a>. Cat, I appreciate the rest of your comment, but as for this: Fat discrimination is the last bastion of open and accepted prejudice left in our society., please see Rule 11 in our Comments Policy.

]]> By: Cat http://kateharding.net/2007/07/12/fat-hatred-kills-part-one/#comment-104950 Cat Wed, 29 Jul 2009 18:56:08 +0000 http://kateharding.net/2007/07/12/fat-hatred-kills-part-one/#comment-104950 I can relate to much of the original story and the subsequent comments though anyone that knows me socially or professionally would be surprised that I carry internal shame about my body and weight issues that for years I have failed to be able to deal with. Fortunately I have learned through the school of hard knocks to stand up for myself because no one else will. As a fat middle aged woman, the tendency is to be ignored, marginalized as stupid, or dismissed as a crank. Fortunately I have formed good relationships with my medical practitioners that only approach the issue of better health and fitness through a balanced diet and moderate exercise. Their caring and compassion comes through. I would not accept anything less. I really wish that folks battling weight issues could all stand up together and deal with fat hate both internally and externally. Fat discrimination is the last bastion of open and accepted prejudice left in our society. Thanks for sharing and I'm so sorry about your dear mother. She deserved so much better. I can relate to much of the original story and the subsequent comments though anyone that knows me socially or professionally would be surprised that I carry internal shame about my body and weight issues that for years I have failed to be able to deal with. Fortunately I have learned through the school of hard knocks to stand up for myself because no one else will. As a fat middle aged woman, the tendency is to be ignored, marginalized as stupid, or dismissed as a crank.

Fortunately I have formed good relationships with my medical practitioners that only approach the issue of better health and fitness through a balanced diet and moderate exercise. Their caring and compassion comes through. I would not accept anything less.

I really wish that folks battling weight issues could all stand up together and deal with fat hate both internally and externally. Fat discrimination is the last bastion of open and accepted prejudice left in our society. Thanks for sharing and I’m so sorry about your dear mother. She deserved so much better.

]]> By: Kaia http://kateharding.net/2007/07/12/fat-hatred-kills-part-one/#comment-103576 Kaia Mon, 20 Jul 2009 09:03:08 +0000 http://kateharding.net/2007/07/12/fat-hatred-kills-part-one/#comment-103576 My mother also has a WW scales standing on the kitchen counter. I think it's 15 years since she last went to one of their meetings... My mother also has a WW scales standing on the kitchen counter. I think it’s 15 years since she last went to one of their meetings…

]]> By: Donica http://kateharding.net/2007/07/12/fat-hatred-kills-part-one/#comment-102759 Donica Fri, 10 Jul 2009 22:50:35 +0000 http://kateharding.net/2007/07/12/fat-hatred-kills-part-one/#comment-102759 That hit home. When I was growing up, my mother wouldn't go to the doctor very often. Her reason? "They're just going to tell me I'm too fat. She crawled around for months with gall stones. By the time she had them removed it was just one big gallstone filling her entire gall bladder. After I had my first child I started getting horrible stomach pains. My husband would tell me to go to the doctor. My answer? They're just going to tell me I'm too fat. It wasn't until I started crawling on the floor from the pain that memory told me to have my husband take me to the emergency room. They removed my gall bladder three weeks later. That hit home.

When I was growing up, my mother wouldn’t go to the doctor very often. Her reason? “They’re just going to tell me I’m too fat.

She crawled around for months with gall stones. By the time she had them removed it was just one big gallstone filling her entire gall bladder.

After I had my first child I started getting horrible stomach pains. My husband would tell me to go to the doctor. My answer? They’re just going to tell me I’m too fat.

It wasn’t until I started crawling on the floor from the pain that memory told me to have my husband take me to the emergency room. They removed my gall bladder three weeks later.

]]> By: k http://kateharding.net/2007/07/12/fat-hatred-kills-part-one/#comment-96439 k Wed, 20 May 2009 04:01:37 +0000 http://kateharding.net/2007/07/12/fat-hatred-kills-part-one/#comment-96439 I am so so sorry. This makes me so angry! Thank you for telling us about her story. I am sure it was hard to write this. I am so so sorry. This makes me so angry! Thank you for telling us about her story. I am sure it was hard to write this.

]]> By: … But I play one on TV « spacedcowgirl http://kateharding.net/2007/07/12/fat-hatred-kills-part-one/#comment-94153 … But I play one on TV « spacedcowgirl Tue, 05 May 2009 23:00:54 +0000 http://kateharding.net/2007/07/12/fat-hatred-kills-part-one/#comment-94153 [...] of exercise, and not seeing a doctor in 20 years, which, OK, is maybe not such a good idea, but I can understand how it might happen), into agreeing to go on a diet. And because no such dramatic change is complete without public [...] [...] of exercise, and not seeing a doctor in 20 years, which, OK, is maybe not such a good idea, but I can understand how it might happen), into agreeing to go on a diet. And because no such dramatic change is complete without public [...]

]]> By: eloriane blogs the NOOZ « Gender Goggles http://kateharding.net/2007/07/12/fat-hatred-kills-part-one/#comment-85920 eloriane blogs the NOOZ « Gender Goggles Tue, 24 Feb 2009 22:16:40 +0000 http://kateharding.net/2007/07/12/fat-hatred-kills-part-one/#comment-85920 [...] see you as a person, but as a body, you can end up in some pretty terrible shape. (Check out Fat Hatred Kills, Part One, for [...] [...] see you as a person, but as a body, you can end up in some pretty terrible shape. (Check out Fat Hatred Kills, Part One, for [...]

]]> By: Sweet Machine http://kateharding.net/2007/07/12/fat-hatred-kills-part-one/#comment-77749 Sweet Machine Tue, 16 Dec 2008 15:02:32 +0000 http://kateharding.net/2007/07/12/fat-hatred-kills-part-one/#comment-77749 Yeah, bq, your medical advice is out of line -- this post is about institutionalized fatphobia, not about big pharma conspiracies. Knock it off. Yeah, bq, your medical advice is out of line — this post is about institutionalized fatphobia, not about big pharma conspiracies. Knock it off.

]]> By: Annitspurple http://kateharding.net/2007/07/12/fat-hatred-kills-part-one/#comment-77735 Annitspurple Tue, 16 Dec 2008 10:45:47 +0000 http://kateharding.net/2007/07/12/fat-hatred-kills-part-one/#comment-77735 BQ, While I appreciate some of your sentiments, telling people not to take time-release drugs of any sort is not appropriate advice. You are not acquainted with the medical records of anyone reading this, and you are not qualified (as far as I can tell) to dispense generalized medical advice. Just like you cannot determine that all fat people are unhealthy or all thin people are healthy, you cannot determine that all time-release drugs are always dangerous and will cause "ulcers, tumors and early liver/kidney failure." Actually, the rate of liver/kidney failure from some of the more toxic (but sometimes necessary) medications is actually quite low, though the rates of this can vary according to the particular medication/dosage/etc. Please refrain from making blanket statements about how others should manage their healthcare, esp on a thread responding to the pain wrought when doctors do this. Sincerely, Annitspurple BQ,

While I appreciate some of your sentiments, telling people not to take time-release drugs of any sort is not appropriate advice. You are not acquainted with the medical records of anyone reading this, and you are not qualified (as far as I can tell) to dispense generalized medical advice. Just like you cannot determine that all fat people are unhealthy or all thin people are healthy, you cannot determine that all time-release drugs are always dangerous and will cause “ulcers, tumors and early liver/kidney failure.” Actually, the rate of liver/kidney failure from some of the more toxic (but sometimes necessary) medications is actually quite low, though the rates of this can vary according to the particular medication/dosage/etc. Please refrain from making blanket statements about how others should manage their healthcare, esp on a thread responding to the pain wrought when doctors do this.

Sincerely,
Annitspurple

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