Comments on: Guest Blogger BStu: “Differently Straight”

By: Ann

Ann — Sat, 04 Jul 2009 07:54:36 +0000

I’ve recently come across the fact that FA’s exist. It’s my dream to find one who can love and appreciate me!

I’m so refreshed to know that there is a “group” of men out there who acutally prefer a larger woman. As I’ve often said to my girlfriends and some men even, I may be larger than what TV ads and movies portray, but my skin is just as soft, my heart is just as big (if not bigger), my blood is just as warm, my eyes just as bright, and my love just as strong. So if someone out there is looking for true love, don’t count a larger women out. Some guys are really missing out. It’s the FA’s in this case, who are really wining the prize.

Ann

By: Fat Attraction, Part 2 « Waistlines

Fat Attraction, Part 2 « Waistlines — Sat, 20 Dec 2008 21:13:13 +0000

[...] In addition, we gain weight as we grow older, from things like pregnancy, stress, and changing metabolism. Even if your significant other is thin now, he or she will probably get fat at some point in your lives. That this is termed “letting oneself go” demonstrates not only a cultural bias towards thinness but a fear of getting old. I like the way BStu put it in this post: [...]

By: Kristin

Kristin — Thu, 29 Nov 2007 03:43:20 +0000

This is it. This is the post that brought me into the FA world…I had googled something that now, months later, I am embarrased to even say. But it was something like, ‘do men like fat women”. Thank the universe for sending me here instead of anywhere else. I am also thankful that probably no one reads these way back then comments anymore :)

By: Aebhel

Aebhel — Sun, 21 Oct 2007 00:38:15 +0000

Loved this. I think the notion of men who prefer fat women (or vice versa) being ‘freaks’ is just ludicrous. Fat is a neutral physical characteristic; it’s like getting on someone’s case for preferring blondes – or at least, it should be.

By: Jon B.

Jon B. — Tue, 26 Jun 2007 08:36:35 +0000

1. Preference should imply that it is something that you like, but in some cases not require. It’s a perk (PERK TO THE MAXIMUM! :P), and while some people “Require” that their partners be larger, the whole concept is a case by case thing. I’ve heard kink, requirement, preference, et cetera…
I myself use preference because while I am an FA, I leave myself open to thinner women. To me the term is open-ended to the point that it can be like a preference/kink/requirement/et cetera, but it’s not loose to the point that it can be seen as a fetish.
There’s nothing wrong with a making it a requirement. I think BStu is right in saying that an FA range is definitely a lot larger than the range of someone that prefers thinner women (Just one of many reasons why Fat Admiration is a good thing ^_^).
2. This is my personal experience:
I conditioned myself to prefer larger women. Not that it is wrong or anything, but the mind is very impressionable. Nature and Nurture both have effect, but I think sexual preference tends to tip more towards the world around us in most people than nature. I think the mind is put in a somewhat blank state in the beginning where outward stimuli make up things. That obviously doesn’t happen with everyone though. Obviously what BStu said about himself is true, and what I said about myself is also true.^_^

By: Banapants

Banapants — Wed, 20 Jun 2007 23:22:07 +0000

Having read a lot about human evolution as social animals and reading many articles on brain development it’s easy to see why people want their to be a norm whether that’s a physical type or behavioral pattern.

The brain prefers to think in more absolutes as it is busy deciding what is coming at it right NOW. Whether this is the reason we develop norms and try to enforce them, or it reinforces this behaviour is way beyond my levels of understanding. However, it is one of the reasons people have trouble embracing anything different.

Even if such behavior has been very beneficial to our species over the long haul I think as a society and as individuals we benefit greatly by expanding our understanding of what is “normal”.

I really applaud BStu for publishing this article and sharing his experiences as an FA. We can all learn from his experiences and perceptions whether fat, thin, male, female, plain straight/queer, etc., etc.

People who keep their minds narrow and emotions stunted are missing out on many of the best parts of being human. Society and individuals benefit by become well rounded.

By: Ceilidh

Ceilidh — Wed, 20 Jun 2007 20:46:57 +0000

I’m like twilightriver. I have heard that there are men like you out there, but in my 35 years of thinking a boyfriend would be nice to have, I’ve never met one. It is nice to know that you’re out there, somewhere, and that I shouldn’t give up hope.

By: Roberta Lipp

Roberta Lipp — Wed, 20 Jun 2007 20:31:48 +0000

Sara,
I always avoided the whole ‘BBW/FA’ world because the idea of the fetishes freaked me out so much. But a girlfriend of mine finally pushed me toward by reminding me that once you get them into bed, every man has got some weird little something or other (quirk or fetish or habit), and at least this way you knew something going in. That was helpful.
But the other part of it, for me, was not wanting to be desired for what I least preferred about myself. Because, as keeps being said, it (being fat and all that means to us) as a way more far reaching thing than pretty much anything else. We all have feet, and how we feel about those feet has a small range; from neutral to don’t touch my feet. Some people wish their brown eyes were blue, or that they had less body hair. Fat goes waaay beyond all that, and so to have it fetishized, in my case, would require to give a lot more than perhaps I could deal with, at least conceptually. I think it’s because my fat is so deeply personal, I can’t just turn it over to ‘you’ for your objectified pleasure.
Whoah, that was like a whole other blog.

By: kateharding

kateharding — Wed, 20 Jun 2007 13:19:50 +0000

Thanks for saying everything I would have said in response to these comments, B.

By: BStu

BStu — Wed, 20 Jun 2007 13:03:52 +0000

I don’t really buy into the fat women are a better brand of woman idea, Mad Penguin. Plenty of thin women are fun to be around and have fabulously interesting things to say. I worry that crafting justifications for liking fat women around their personality superiority is just a way of deflecting social stigma instead of really challenging it. Fat people and thin people can both be great people. Some folks aren’t more broad in their physical attractions, others just prefer the physical appeal of fat people. That, alone, is fine. We don’t need to slam what we’re not attracted to in order to embrace what we attracted to. That’s a game played by “thin admirers” and I see no reason to keep it up. Fat people aren’t simply better. They are just fat. That’s okay, too.