Comments on: It Deepens Like a Coastal Shelf http://kateharding.net/2005/10/20/it-deepens-like-a-coastal-shelf/ 2007-2010 Thu, 15 Jul 2010 02:13:02 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.com/ By: Karen http://kateharding.net/2005/10/20/it-deepens-like-a-coastal-shelf/#comment-47585 Fri, 14 Mar 2008 16:38:41 +0000 http://kateharding.wordpress.com/2005/10/20/it-deepens-like-a-coastal-shelf/#comment-47585 Seriously, parents who give and give and give and sacrifice and take nothing for themselves are rarely actual martyrs, of the kind that can really do that. Mostly, they’re fairly desperate. It comes out interestingly sometimes.

I have two (and working on a third). I’m happy to have them. But I do not sacrifice my very self for them, because there lies the path to suicide, which would probably suck worse than most of the other things I could do. I take walks. I get out of the house with friends. It may not be much of one, but I have some life beyond the family and kids. I don’t try to do two full time jobs at once (I don’t think that working and being the kids primary caretaker is anything I could do unless I was actually in a desperate situation). I make sure that I am taken care of, because, I have found, I am incapable of properly caring for the kids otherwise.

]]> By: Elle http://kateharding.net/2005/10/20/it-deepens-like-a-coastal-shelf/#comment-43865 Sat, 09 Feb 2008 16:16:52 +0000 http://kateharding.wordpress.com/2005/10/20/it-deepens-like-a-coastal-shelf/#comment-43865 I’m on your side, I never want to have children. And if I ever feel like I do want children, all I have to do is to stand in a queue at the shopping centre for ten minutes while a small child is screaming at the top of his or her lungs for no reason other than that they want attention.

I don’t think I’m very motherly.

]]> By: fillyjonk http://kateharding.net/2005/10/20/it-deepens-like-a-coastal-shelf/#comment-43233 Wed, 06 Feb 2008 04:41:03 +0000 http://kateharding.wordpress.com/2005/10/20/it-deepens-like-a-coastal-shelf/#comment-43233 Made even better by a link to “This Be The Verse.” I think reading through the Harding archives is a good idea, I should undertake that one too.

]]> By: Kat http://kateharding.net/2005/10/20/it-deepens-like-a-coastal-shelf/#comment-43229 Wed, 06 Feb 2008 04:17:15 +0000 http://kateharding.wordpress.com/2005/10/20/it-deepens-like-a-coastal-shelf/#comment-43229 Decided to read some of your older stuff. Brilliant! Laughing so hard I feel like I just did 100 crunches. I hope you’ll also do books with this kind of stuff!

I can relate. I also KNEW I’d screw up any kids I had. And the fam has so much mental illnes that I thought it would be cruel to reproduce. BUT, I reproduced at age 35 and she is wonderful.

You’ll decide what is right for you but I’m sure you’d make a great mom. And it would be such a shame not to pass down those witty wonderful genes of yours!

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